how to get used to rejection, being rejected

At every point in our lives we have suffered rejection at some point, our ideas seem crappy, we get rejected by friends, spouses, the society, our mentors, we get fired, marriage proposal turned down etc. These and many others are forms of rejection.

Rejection may take different forms but this time around we will focus on rejection in relation to our dreams or desires being fulfilled. I have listed some cases of famous people who endured rejection and eventually became role models.

I take rejection as someone blowing a bulge to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat.

Sylvester Stallone- Actor, writer, and Director.

Handling rejection is not a child’s play and often times demoralizing, it takes lots of courage and determination to move on.  Determination fuels our dream, it keeps pushing us forward, however we are very lucky to have some examples of role models we can learn from.

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Some are listed here:

When Alexander  Graham Bell offered the rights to the telephone for 100,000USD to Carl Orton, President of  Western Union, Orton replied, “what use would this company make of an electrical toy?”

Angie Evenhart who started modelling at the age of 16, was once told by model agency owner  Eileen Ford that she would never make it as a model. Why not? “Redheads don’t sell.” Evenhart later became the first redhead in history to appear on the cover of Glamour magazine, had a great modelling career, and then went on to appear in 27 films and numerous TV shows.

Novelist Stephen King almost made a multimillion dollar mistake when he threw his Carrie  manuscript in the garbage because he was tired of the rejections. “we are not interested in science fiction which deals with negative utopias,” he was told. “they do not sell.”  Luckily his wife fished it out in the garbage. Eventually Carrie was printed by another publisher, sold more than 4 million copies and was made into a blockbuster movie.

In 1998, Google co-founders Sergy Brin and Larry Page approached Yahoo! and suggested a merger. Yahoo! could have snapped up the company for a handful of stocks but instead they suggested that the young “Googlers” keep working on their little school project and come back when they had grown up. In 2012, Google made 50billion USD in revenue and a total equity of 71.72 billion USD according to wikepedia.

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It is impossible to sell animal stories in the USA (from the rejection slip of George Orwell’s animal farm)

The record of the most outstanding number of rejections would probably be John Creasey’s. A popular British mystery writer, Creasey collected 743 rejection slips before he sold his 1st book! Impervious to rejection, over the next 40 years he went on to publish 562 full length books under 28 different pseudonyms! If John Creasey can handle 743 rejections on his way to success, so can you.

We have to look beyond ourselves and learn from every negative feedback. Remember those who quit don’t win.

The cases in this write up were culled from “How to get from where you are to where you want to be”.

Akinsanmi Simi is an IT professional with skills spanning project management, business analysis, business consulting, coaching and talent management, social media strategy and business development. He enjoys travelling, drumming, writing and swimming. He is also a voracious reader with strong affinity for knowledge. Website:


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